Growth Mindset vs Fixed Mindset
The Mindset You Should Always Have

Story Time

This is the best example I can give you of when I saw the difference between the growth mindset and the fixed mindset, it was clear as day.

So,

I play in a football team with around 20 other people, and obviously we have fun, we joke, we get angry and so on. The point is, you meet a lot of people, now among those people you'll find different characters, every type you can imagine,

And I used to play with this guy, he was quite intelligent and you could have a decent conversation with him, sometimes we'd have a laugh or poke fun at each other, we got along well with each other.

But one thing which held him back a lot is the fact that he'd always have to have the last say, in his mind he was never wrong, (fixed/closed mindset)

If the coach says something to him he'd talk back, if he makes a mistake he blames the others, if he's on his own and he makes a mistake he blames the turf or the ball or the wind or that a leaf fell on his head at exactly the wrong moment so it made him lose his balance (might have made the last one up),

But you get it, it was never his fault, in his mind he was always right,

And I'm thinking like 'Bro some people just want to help you, no need to get defensive'

But yeah, he legitimately though that he was never wrong, he was missing something called Humility (believing you already know everything and have nothing else to learn)

And that was his greatest crutch, he was held in shackles by that way of thinking cause in the time that I knew him he never learned anything.

We find so many people like the one I described above and it's a shame cause if only they knew how to DEAL with Making Mistakes they wouldn't be so scared to admit they made one.

(BTW there's nothing wrong with making a mistake, it's just a little embarrassing that's all, we were taught that making a mistake was bad because we were punished when we did bad on the exam or got a maths problem wrong in front of the whole class)

But anyway, the problem my ex-teammate had was that he thought he already knew everything or he had a fragile ego to admit he made a mistake, but let's just discuss the former (first one).

The thing is that doesn't make sense, cause no one knows everything it's as simple as that, literally NO ONE.

If you have a bucket full of water you cannot fill it more cause it will overflow and no more water will get in,

He's treating himself like that full bucket, but if you think you're already full how can you learn even more?? (YOU CAN'T)

It's just like putting an imaginary ceiling on yourself, you cannot go higher if you're being blocked by it,

Imagine trying to climb a ladder in a room with a ceiling, it's not gonna happen mate.

And the biggest shame is that we put this imaginary ceiling on oursleves,

Basically, he had the problem of having a CLOSED MINDSET. (a fixed mindset)

The BIGGEST MISTAKE You Can Make When it Comes To Your Growth

Don't Disqualify Yourself

Side tangent, Story Time: 

I remember one of my friends was telling me about a girl he liked, and he was going on to say all these great things about her but none about himself,

Then he said that 'But I'm not good enough for her, she probably has other guys who look 10x better than me trying to hit her up'.

And that's when I stopped him, I was like;

''Bro you haven't even talked to her...why are you already thinking about losing her? Let her disqualify you, but don't disqualify yourself''

Therapists shiver in their boots when they hear me coming hahaha.

Growth Mindset vs Fixed Mindset

But What is a Fixed Mindset?

A fixed mindset, also called a closed mindset simply means that you are not willing to learn,

(And if you're not willing to learn than forget learning anything by accident, things don't work that way)

Fixed literally meaning unable to move, with this mindset you are not moving forward you are just in the same place.

Some people are this way cause they think they are gods amongst men, others cause they are ashamed to admit they're not perfect and others cause they're too arrogant to admit that someone else (maybe even below them) might know something that they don't.

These people will stagnate.

Stagnation meaning to 'stop the flow/movement'. And when movement stops that animal dies..

So how can we be different? Can we be the opposite of these people?

Yes we can.

How?

It's called a BEGINNER'S MINDSET (or growth mindset).

But what is this 'Growth Mindset'??

Well, I want you to imagine a master and a beginner, to help your visualization I like to think that there is a master sensei giving a karate lesson to a young kid.

Imagine that young kid, do you think he'll tell the sensei he's wrong? NO WAY.

That kid is gonna listen carefully trying to do what the sensei is saying and replicate his moves.

I also used to play with a guy, he was from Japan and he was a legend, he was so good but he was the opposite of the guy I told you about, everyone loved him, he listened and admitted his mistakes and he actually put the Knowledge To Action.

We could learn a lot by being like kids,

Kids are what we call inquisitive (eager to learn), they shut up, observe things and actually learn.

We should be like sponges, always looking for moisture (learning in this case), always looking to be filled with new knowledge.

Basically, learn AS MUCH as you can, look for opportunities to learn everywhere and in everything,

I thought I couldn't learn anything from my ex-teammate but now here I am writing about Growth mindset vs fixed mindset, and how his closed mindset will hinder his progress. Cause he even taught me a thing or two.

''Sometimes we don't learn what we should do

but rather what we shouldn't do'' 

He thought me in a very obvious way the difference between the two mindsets and how to notice someone with his way of thinking.

Life has countless lessons it wants to teach us but we need to be willing to receive them, otherwise they'll just go over your head and you'll miss what you could have gotten from the experience.

If you're not willing to learn anything than you certainly will NOT

So What About You?

Well, you probably have a growth or a fixed mindset cause I highly doubt that you would be reading this if you have a fixed one, and if you are, I respect your desire to change.

Since you're already interested in this type of content then it probably means that you have a growth mindset so for that I congratulate you. You might not need what you just read just for yourself, you might use it to identify other people with that defect, or maybe try help someone close to you which unfortunately has this crutch.

You might be like, 'Wait why am I trying to convince that guy? He doesn't even think he can learn anything, he's not going to change his opinion so what's the point of wasting my energy with him'.

And through the realization that some people want to learn and others don't you'll start to notice them quicker and realize who it is you should be helping.

Always keep this in mind, cause in your head it's always the battle of the;

'Growth Mindset vs The Closed Mindset',

They can also be renamed;

Progress/learning vs Stagnation/Arrogance,

Whoever wins will determine the trajectory of your life.

Pretend like you're a beginner in all that you do, pretend like you can always learn something new, because you can...

And bro,

Always remember,